Three good things. That’s it.

There was a season of my life when everything felt heavy. Not just sad — heavy. The kind of heavy where even good things felt far away, and days blurred together.

That’s when my best friend Micki started asking me a simple question that we shared every day through text:

“What are your three good things today?”

At first, it felt almost silly. Some days, my list was small.
Diet Coke from McDonald’s.
Sun is shining.
Wore my favorite jeans.

But over time, something shifted.

Noticing didn’t make the hard things disappear.
It didn’t fix grief.
It didn’t tie life up in a pretty bow.

What it did was give my heart a place to land.

Three small anchors in a day that felt like too much.
Three reminders that even in heartbreak, life was still quietly happening.
Three ways to say: I’m still here. I’m still living.

After Steve passed, Micki was always by my side. She didn’t try to fix me. She didn’t rush me. She just kept asking for three good things — like a lifeline thrown gently across the day.

Today, Micki is no longer here in the way she once was.
But this ritual is.

3 Good Things is one of the ways I still carry her with me.
It’s how our friendship keeps living.
It’s how noticing became sacred.

Some days my three good things are big.
Some days they’re barely a whisper.

But they all matter.

On Carrie & Co, when you see 3 Good Things, you’re not just seeing content. You’re seeing a practice that helped save me. A way of being present. A way of honoring love that continues.

If you’re in a hard season, good season or whatever season in life, I invite you to borrow this.

You don’t have to be positive.
You don’t have to be strong.
You just have to notice.

Three good things.
That’s it.

Sometimes, that’s enough to make it through the day.

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